Sea Changes at the Pool?

This summer my daughter Courtney lifeguards at the war memorial pool in Amherst.   I stop by occasionally to swim some laps with her on her breaks.

One day post workout, we were talking about how pool rules have changed over the years.  Instead of jumping in the pool anywhere from the edge as was done in my day, swimmers at the War Memorial pool can only enter via jump zones, designated by blue mats. “It’s safer this way,” my daughter authoritatively explained.

I told her it was just a sign of the over protective times….  We used to ride our 5 miles to the pool and go off of a frightening tall high dive.

When I informed her that when her age, I was trained as a lifeguard, she found this hard to believe.  I started rattling off the types of saves:  throwing the buoy, cross chest carry, hair tow, ….  Incredulous she said, “Stop, no way.  Dragging by the hair would be barbaric, you are making this up.”

Evidence and Memories by Google.

Back home, I went to Google for support.  A link to the history of lifesaving  (http://faculty.deanza.edu/donahuemary/Historyoflifesaving) reports the following.

“A 1982 printing of American Red Cross Lifesaving Rescue and Water Safety, says in part: "If a person is in danger of drowning only a short distance from shore and there is no rescue equipment of any kind available, the untrained swimmer may feel that is it necessary to attempt the rescue. In such cases, the rescuer should swim to a position behind the victim and make contact with the victim by seizing the person's hair."

Lifeguard certification cards (advanced lifesaving and water safety) featured a drawing of the silhouettes of a man dragging a buxom female victim through the water on her back by her hair. “

It turns out the hair tow was also practiced in 1977.  Those were barbaric days indeed.

However, Google crushed two other memories.

It looks like the high dive at Plymouth pool in Midland, MI was replaced by a water slide, thus we will never know how high it was.

And, the five mile bike ride to the pool we made daily during my childhood was not as far as I remembered (1.9 miles via google maps).

What memories have you confirmed or disconfirmed with Google?

A family recipe for mindful tea.

This summer at a family reunion with 15 guests in our house--that brought all the laughter and chaos one could imagine--I received a recipe for mindfulness.

The mindfulness I am referring to has been defined by Thich Nhat Hanh as being “truly alive, present and at one with those around you and with what you are doing.”  

I got to experience mindful action by three Indian brothers in their 70’s, 60’s, and 50’s who were visiting us. 

In the still of the early morning, when most guests were asleep, I witnessed a morning ritual that was the epitome of mindfulness. 

On successive mornings, each of the brothers (my father in law and his two younger siblings), would take turns preparing morning bed tea for each other.  The recipe and procedure has been passed down since their childhood.

This was a still and precise event.  Although repeated many times through their lives, it was performed as it was done for the first time.

Step by step, the family algorithm was followed.  Each step was tested with affectionate curiosity and the mind of a beginner.

 At the end of the tea preparation, the three brothers in their pajamas would sit on our deck and ceremoniously drink the tea that each other had lovingly prepared for the group.

The Bahl family bed tea algorithm was shared with me and now I share it with you.

1.       Heat water in electric kettle

2.       Add hot water to tea pot to warm it up.

3.       Pour water in cups to warm them up

4.       Three teaspoons of Darjeeling tea. Loose, premium quality

5.       Two bags of Lipton yellow label tea

6.       Fill pot with boiling water. Approx. 6 cups

7.       Cover with tea cozy (2 minutes)

8.       Heat milk in microwave. 

9.       Quarter teaspoon into the tea

10.   Pour the tea through a strainer (add sugar before, milk afterwards as needed)

11.   Makes approx. five cups.

Travelling the Mindfulness Path

As I was heading out the door my wife reminded me to make sure to wear my helmet while I biked to work.   In preparation, I took my bike out of the garage and placed my helmet on the back rack.  Prior to leaving I gave directions to our gardeners, and then was on my way.

My route starts by climbing up a tenth of a mile steep driveway, followed by a quarter of a mile flat, and then exiting the neighborhood down a half mile long hill.   I was enjoying the breeze and the fast glide with no effort.  Upon turning the corner at the bottom of the hill, my mind started wandering, going back to the conversation with the gardeners.  Suddenly I became aware I had forgotten to put on my helmet. 

Angry at my carelessness I immediately turned around to head back home and went into low gear for the uphill journey.  I reminded myself to be more mindful in the future.  This triggered the thought--why not be more mindful now?  With observation, I realized my tunnel-vision, with my mind racing, frantically heading up the hill to correct the problem.  As I relaxed, the scope of my thoughts expanded--I wondered where the helmet had fallen off.  Probably going up the steep driveway I concluded.

I am not sure how much was attributed to the steep climb up the hill or the continued mindful observation, but with further awareness and mind relaxation (but not my legs!) I decided to check my assumptions.  I stopped my bike and looked at my back rack.   There was the helmet.

How many times do we fail to be mindful and base our decision making on emotional scripts and don’t consider alternative courses of action?  The steep hill reminded me of many lessons I knew but didn’t apply. 

First, it’s important to me more mindful in all our actions.   I often quote Ben Franklin and say that “a step in time saves nine.”  In this case mindful-action at the start of the trip would have saved the possible return trip up the hill. 

Second, when trouble in life occurs, it’s important to be mindful and slow down, so that narrow, unproductive scripts do not take over your decision making. 

Third, I need look for an alternative, less steep route to return to home.

How does life remind you to be more mindful?   What lessons have you recently learned along the mindfulness path?

Black Friday, Cyber Monday, what’s next?

Marketers pay close attention to black Friday and cyber Monday sales levels to get a sense of how the holiday shopping season will turn out.  The early returns suggest that both Black Friday and Cyber Monday were very successful, with sales up 20% from last year at the same time.  

Pundits feel the promotions and deals are jump starting the ailing economy.  However, the other interesting story is how consumer shopping patterns are being altered by new technologies and aggressive marketing tactics.

It seems to me that every year the Christmas marketing effort starts earlier.    This year the malls were starting to decorate before Halloween. 

The start times for Black Friday are being rolled back.  The early 5 am times seem late compared to the 3 am start times.   This year marketers are encroaching upon Thanksgiving, for those who can’t wait until Friday.

Cyber Monday sales have increased each subsequent year since it started in 2005.   This year Cyber Monday sales now eclipse black Friday sales.

Now cyber Monday is making room for cyber Saturday and Sunday.  In addition, online discounts and deals are planed after cyber Monday.   “Cyber Monday discounts on regular Tuesday” is the new tagline in the email headers.

Moreover, this year social media, email, smart phone apps, 4-square, SMS services are being used to announce sales or deliver coupons.

Clearly there is a lot of pressure to shop!

We succumb

The multiple media channels announcing black Friday sales prompted a discussion in our house, questioning whether we should venture out on Black Friday.   My wife never had done the early morning trek to the mall.  I had, about a decade ago and have fond memories of arm wrestling with another shopper who happened to grab one of the deeply discounted DVD players on sale.  With some trepidation, we made plans to go out early.

Well, 9:30 is not early, but we were mixing it up at Dick’s sporting goods with the crowds.  I am surprised how seductive the advertising was when we walked in.  Wow, kayaks for only $159—I started contemplating whether I wanted this item that was nowhere in my consciousness until I saw someone carry one out and then noticed the price.

I focused on our shopping list and found a Black Friday discounted outdoor fire pit that would be perfect for my sister.   My wife found many yoga outfits that I could give her for Christmas.    

We braved the long checkout lines, and felt that we had enough Black Friday. 

Back home, we learned that my sister had self-gifted herself an outdoor fire pit the week prior.  Looks like the Black Friday savings will end up to be an extra trip to the mall.  And, as a substitute, we will get her an online gift card from whatever Cyber holiday marketers offer us in the near future.

Do you feel the holiday season is over extended?

Are you seduced by the marketing efforts?

Are you transferring more of your shopping to online?

How much should a pumpkin pie cost?

How much should a pumpkin pie cost?  This was the question that my wife and I debated and discussed with the help of willing taste testers over the holiday weekend.   The discussion began when she picked up a pumpkin  pie at our local CSA.  While paying for it I was told it would be $12.50.  I was surprised at the cost and announced, “wow, this seems expensive. Stop and Shop sells pies for $5.”   My naivety was silently dismissed by the cashier, and I was informed by my wife that the ingredients were much better.  Moreover the reference point should have been Akins, or Whole foods, both have bakeshops that use good quality [fresh-healthy] ingredients. [Subsequent research found other quality bakeshops to have cheaper pies::  atkins $11, whole foods $9.99, and trader joes $4.99.]

Admittedly, the CSA did provide organically grown pumpkins and the unknown baker of the pies most likely must have used these pumpkins.  The ingredients listed on the homemade packaging sound reasonable.  Yet, there was no experience or branding with the pie.  I had never tried the pie previously, and with an important dessert such as thanksgiving I wasn’t sure if I wanted to take a risk.   Why not pay less and get a pie we know would taste good?

How difficult or expensive is it to make a pumpkin pie?  Pies after all are the “common man’s food.”  A little internet research indicates that some of the first pumpkin pies in plimoth MA (1661) consisted of pumpkin, honey, milk, and spices in a pumpkin shell cooked on ashes.  A 1796 American cookbook [American cookery, by an American orphan by Amelia Simmons] featured recipes similar to what we buy in our stores:  One quart of milk, 1 pint pompkin, 4 eggs, molasses, allspice and ginger in a crust, bake 1 hour.

Besides debating the quality of the ingredients and recipes, we discussed economies of scale, treatment of employees, importance of buying local, the cost of branding,  carbon footprint of driving to different stores and so forth.   A very interesting discussion, but no answers were found. 

In the end, we decided to have relatives participate in a blind taste test.  Trader Joes $4.99 vs. the CSA $12.50.  This way we got to have twice as many pies.

The CSA pie was very good.  All relatives preferred this one.  (Incidentally, both pies were finished quickly).   

Still, one could question whether the 150% higher price was warranted?  The taste in my opinion was 150% better.   So, many of the other considerations such as locally sourcing and fair wages are somewhat moot, and are an added bonus.

With all this in mind, I do know that we will likely buy the same pie next year and will not be buying the Neimen Marcus pumpkin pie for $50, even though they include free shipping.

What is the most you have paid for a pie?  What factors besides price and taste do you consider?

For my wife's perspective on this issue click here.